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This year as we celebrate the 100th Anniversary of this Holy Shrine—The El Dorado Shiv Mandir. One of the oldest in the country, I take pleasure in congratulating the SDMS, the pundits—Kutia Baba and all others, especially pundit Deosaran Sharma, pundit Vinai, pundit Pravin and members of their family, President Nirmala and her executive and all the previous presidents and executive members and devotees of this blessed mandir.
Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly. Think about happiness, good health and success and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits. In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success. Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.
Are you willing to make a real inner change? Are you willing to change the way you think? Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you? Here are a few actions and tips to help you develop the power of positive thinking:
• Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, ‘I can’, ‘I am able’, ‘it is possible’, ‘it can be done’, etc;
• Allow into your awareness only feelings of happiness, strength and success;
• Try to disregard and ignore negative thoughts. Refuse to think such thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts;
• In your conversation use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success;
• Before starting with any plan or action, visualise clearly in your mind its successful outcome. If you visualise with concentration and faith, you will be amazed at the results;
• Read at least one page of an inspiring book every day;
• Watch movies that make you happy;
• Minimise the time you listen to the news and read the papers;
• Associate yourself with people who think positively;
• Always sit and walk with your back straight. This will strengthen your confidence and inner strength;
• Walk, swim or engage in some other physical activity. This helps to develop a more positive attitude;
• Think positive and expect only favourable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, your mental attitude will affect your life and circumstances and change them accordingly.
When you expect success and say “I can”, you fill yourself with confidence and joy. Fill your mind with light, hope and feelings of strength, and soon your life will reflect these qualities.
Positive attitude and thinking
Positive thinking is a mental attitude that sees the bright side of life. Positive thinking is a mental attitude and state of mind, which focuses on the full half of the glass and not on the empty half. It is a mental attitude that expects positive results. People with a positive frame of mind think about possibilities, growth, expansion and success. They expect happiness, health, love and good relationships. They think in terms of ‘I can’, ‘I am able’, and ‘I will succeed’.
Positive thinking people are not daunted by failures and obstacles. If things don’t turn out well or as expected, they will try again. True positive thinking is not just saying that everything will be okay, as a lip service, and at the same time think about failure. In order to bring beneficial changes and improvement into your life, positive thinking has to become your predominant mental attitude throughout the day. It has to turn into a way of life. Real and effective positive thinking requires that you focus on positive thoughts and positive emotions, and also take positive action. How can you develop this state of mind? You can do so by reading inspiring and motivating literature, and through visualisation, affirmations and meditation.
Tips for happiness in daily life
Daily life can be made happier. It is a matter of choice. It is our attitude that makes us feel happy or unhappy. It is true, we meet all kinds of situations during the day, and some of them may not be conductive to happiness. We can choose to keep thinking about the unhappy events and we can choose to refuse to think about them, and instead, relish the happy moments. All of us constantly go through various situations and circumstances, but we do not have to let them influence our reactions and feelings. If we let outer events influence our moods, we become their slaves. We lose our freedom. We let our happiness be determined by outer forces. On the other hand, we can free ourselves from outer influences. We can choose to be happy, and we can do a lot to add happiness to our lives.
What is happiness? It is a feeling of inner peace and satisfaction. It is usually experienced when there are no worries, fears or obsessing thoughts, and this usually happens, when we do something we love to do or when we get, win, gain or achieve something that we value. It seems to be the outcome of positive events, but it actually comes from the inside, triggered by outer events. For most people, happiness seems fleeting and temporary, because they allow external circumstances to affect it. One of the best ways to keep it is by gaining inner peace through daily meditation. As the mind becomes more peaceful, it becomes easier to choose the happiness habit.
Here are a few tips for increasing happiness in daily life:
• Endeavour to change the way you look at things. Always look at the bright side. The mind may drag you to think about negativity and difficulties. Don’t let it. Look at the good and positive side of every situation.
• Think of solutions, not problems.
• Listen to relaxing, uplifting music.
• Watch funny comedies that make you laugh.
• Each day, devote some time to reading a few pages of an inspiring book or article.
• Watch your thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, start thinking of pleasant things.
• Always look at what you have done and not at what you haven’t.
Sometimes you may begin the day with the desire to accomplish several objectives. At the end of the day you might feel frustrated and unhappy, because you haven’t been able to do all those things. Look at what you have done, not at what you have not been able to do. You may have accomplished a lot during the day, and yet you let yourself become frustrated, because of some small things that you did not accomplish. You have spent all day successfully carrying out many plans, and instead of feeling happy and satisfied, you look at what was not accomplished and feel unhappy. It is unfair toward yourself.
• Each day do something good for yourself. It can be something small, such as buying a book, eating something you love, watching your favourite programme on TV, going to a movie, or just having a stroll on the beach.
• Each day do at least one act to make others happy. This can be a kind word, helping your colleagues, stopping your car at the crossroad to let people cross, giving your seat in a bus to someone else or giving a small present to someone you love. The possibilities are infinite. When you make someone happy, you become happy, and then people try to make you happy.
• Always expect happiness.
• Do not envy people who are happy. On the contrary, be happy for their happiness.
• Associate with happy people, and try to learn from them to be happy. Remember, happiness is contagious.
• Do your best to stay detached, when things do not proceed as intended and desired. Detachment will help you stay calm and control your moods and reactions. Detachment is not indifference. It is the acceptance of the good and the bad and staying balanced. Detachment has much to do with inner peace, and inner peace is conductive to happiness.
• Smile more often.
Associating with positive people
The people you associate with—whether on the job or socially—can have motivating or a demotivating effect on you. Some folks see life in a positive light and are natural motivators. You associate with some people not by choice but simply by circumstance. You can’t choose your coworkers, for example; sometimes you have to do the best you can to work with and get along with them congenially. Instead, surround yourself with people who make you feel better, people who notice what’s right and good instead of what’s wrong and bad. Everyone has said on some occasion: “I just feel inspired; I feel better about myself and my future when I’m around so and so.” In other words, choose to associate with people you want to be more like.
Taking inventory of your attitude
Look at your attitude. Assess it, examine it. Take stock of your beliefs about yourself, take a mental inventory of your attitudes (good and bad) and decide for yourself which of those attitudes work for you and which do not. The ones you don’t want to keep; throw out. Get rid of them. Keep the ones you like. Change the one you want to change. Take charge of your attitude. Put yourself back in control. The least that could happen is that you would get a little more of your real self back again. Discover the jewels and gems that are part of your own mind. Seek out and find the rich reserve of the “attitudes” within you which have been waiting to step out and live again. Start talking to yourself the right way. Little changes in attitude can make big changes in life. Your attitude affects all of the important things around you. They affect how you feel about yourself. They affect your work, your friends, and your loved ones. When your attitude get better, so does life. If you would like to make a change or two, fixing an attitude and making life a little better isn’t a bad place to start.
Change your programming
Our self esteem is the result of what we are programmed to believe. Our conditioning, from the day we were born, has created, reinforced, and nearly permanently cemented most of what we believe about ourselves and what we believe about most of what goes on around us. Whether the programming was right or wrong, true or false; the result of it is what we believe. It all starts with our programming! It is our programming that sets up our beliefs, and the chain reaction begins. In logical progression, what we believe determines our attitudes, affects our feeling, directs our behaviour, and determines our success or failure:
• Programming creates beliefs;
• Beliefs create attitudes;
• Attitudes create feelings;
• Feelings determine actions;
• Actions create results.
That’s how the brain works. If you want to manage yourself in a better way, and change your results, you can do so at any time you choose.
Raj Jadoo is an executive member of the Sanatan Dharma Maha Sabha and manager of the El Dorado Shiv Mandir
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