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Be at peace, be courteous

Sunday, December 17, 2017

My last article for 2017 is going to be about “courtesy.” Courtesy means the showing of politeness in one’s attitude and behaviour towards others—children and adults from all walks of life.

Courtesy applies across the board—whether it is customer service, posting on social media, interacting with children and the elderly.

The words we use play a part in showing politeness in one’s attitude. It is important to understand that words are powerful and when used in a positive way can motivate people.

Courtesy starts in the home especially when it comes to how children or adults behave when not at home.

We are seeing it constantly every day—whether it is bullying in schools; being cussed because you told someone to move their vehicle parked at the top of your street; making a comment on someone’s post and they don’t like your comment; vehicles blocking the entrance and exit of a street instead of leaving it open and the list can go on.

Some people don’t realise that when someone uses words in an abusive way or shouts at you that there is a lot of negative energy that is released on the poor recipient and the recipient will be carrying around that negative energy for the rest of the day.

Smiling regularly while having a conversation can make a big difference in some people’s behaviour towards others.

Here is an exercise for you. When next you are talking to someone on the phone who is annoyed, smile while you are having the conversation.

You will notice that the attitude of the person on the other end of the phone will start to change. Another exercise is—have you ever noticed on some people’s faces that the corners of their mouth are turned down?

Have you ever wondered why? It is because when they are upset or angry the pulling down of the corners of the mouth happens subconsciously and then becomes a habit. So this is even more reasons to smile a lot.

Looking for the good in others is another form of courtesy. A quote from Audrey Hepburn: “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”

This quote speaks volumes and is so true. Living a life of peace is certainly worth it. Once a person is at peace with themselves, they can be courteous to others.

Learn to choose your battles. Some people take on every single situation that comes their way.

The analogy is that of a dog that barks at every single car that drives pass his domain. We need to stop.

The end results are high blood pressure; always feeling that everyone is against us; being angry all the time; or not being able to stop screaming back insults to others.

Take several deep breaths, blow out slowly try to calm yourself. Meditation is a great way to calm the mind.

It tames the emotions and stresses that makes us upset within our daily lives and opens our minds to an inner calm and well-being.

“Forgiveness liberates the soul, it removes fear. That’s why it is such a powerful weapon.”—Nelson Mandela.

We need to practice forgiveness more in our lives. Once we forgive, we can be courteous to people regardless of the situation. The lightness we feel once we forgive ourselves and others is an amazing feeling.
Take pen and paper on old year’s night, write down all your 2017 achievements and failures.

Think about how you can make 2018 a success for you and write that down. Start working on your list January 1, 2018.

As we come to the end of 2017, I would like to take this opportunity to acknowledge all my readers and supporters and wish you all a happy holidays and many blessings to you and your family.


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